The engagement period can be dreamy; you have just decided to marry that someone special and it’s easy to look at life through rose-tinted glasses. Whether it’s a month or a year before your wedding, this time can quickly spiral down into a stress-filled haze. There are a few things you can do to help you cherish and enjoy the time leading up to that special day.
Once you get over the initial excitement, start getting organized. Contact a wedding planner in India, make wedding checklists and start getting your stuff together. Having another person taking care of things (with or without you), helps a lot more than you can imagine. The sooner you start, the easier it is to deal with each aspect, one at a time and not be bogged down by a 100 details at the last minute. The more organized you are, the more in control you will feel. Delegate certain tasks to your fiancé and avoid confusion and arguments later.
Do take the time out to spend some quality time with your sweetheart. This is the time when communication is critical, since you are in one of the major evolutionary stages in your relationship. Talk about your dreams and fears and share in the excitement together. Keep wedding planning talk to the minimum on these dates; this is just about you both, laughing, chatting and keeping the spark going. This period is even more important if you are having an arranged marriage and don’t know the person for too long. Get to know each other better and take joy in each other’s quirks and personality traits. Have fun with each other!
If you haven’t talked about the big issues like finances, relationships, families or laying down personal boundaries, now is definitely the time to do so. These are major issues that need to be sorted before you begin married life together; they will also help cement your bond.
It may seem like a long time, but your engagement period whirls by before you can say “I do”. It will be a big change in your life and you will suddenly be part of a unit. Take this time to do all the things you enjoy. Plan trips with your friends, join some fun classes, spend time with your family….basically, do the things that make you happy and content. Go to the spa, eat well, workout and take good care of yourself. Preserving this sense of ‘self’ will help keep you calm and grounded, even during the chaotic wedding planning in India.
When things get rough, try to remember why you are marrying your partner in the first place… and that alone will make you smile!